FEATURED STORY (12/30/09)









FACILITATING SKILLS TRAINING & PLANNING WORKSHOP 
held at San Vicente National High School, Butuan City on December 29, 2009 participated by the pioneering batch of Pure Love Volunteers was successful.

The main output of the activity is the formulation of goal and objectives for the year 2010.

GOAL:
By the end of the year 2010, Pure Love Network will be known globally having dynamic leaders, volunteers, and pledgers. Well appreciated by parents and highly endorsed by the Government, becomes successful and admired youth organization changing the lives of the young.

OBJECTIVES:
1. Enhance the website by regularly posting real-touching articles.
2. Conduct leadership and capability trainings and workshop.
3. Conduct massive promotion and recruitment of membership through the Love Forum and other similar activities.
4. Conduct Parent's Fora to establish close coordination with families.

5. Apply for Government accreditation.

Participants were Markeen Tero, Honey Marie Tulin, Shio Ann Chris Branzuela, Daisy Mangubat, Labelle Mae Bantiles, Jessa Salva, Cornelio Casilac, Jr., and Benjie Villaflor.

FEATURED STORY (12/25/09)



Premarital Sex -  Is it Right?
by 
Rizza Acero of Buenavista, ADN

"Is it ok to have premarital sex?" …

That is a common question among teens and engaged couples. Perhaps you are in a relationship that is progressing in that direction, but you're not sure what to do. In your mind, you are probably weighing the pros and cons of premarital sex. On the positive side of the scale, there is acceptance from your peers, hope for pleasure, and the fulfillment of sexual desires. The negative side of the scale carries the weights of morals, fear of pregnancy or disease, and guilt. How do these scales balance? What is the right decision? Let's take a look at some of the facts.

The Bible refers to premarital sex as “Fornication”. That's a word we don't hear much these days, so what does it mean? Fornication is sexual intercourse between people who are not married to each other.
Premarital sex is just as much of a sin as adultery and all other forms of sexual immorality. They all involve having sexual relations with someone you are not married to.

The Bible explains, "…The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body" (1 Corinthians 6:13). Verse 18 of this chapter goes on to say, "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body."


Premarital Sex - Is it Safe Physically and Emotionally?

Another consideration when deciding about premarital sex is safety. Did you know that 50% of the people who currently have HIV are between the ages of 15 and 24?

1. Using a condom only reduces the risk of contracting HIV by 85%. Condoms do not significantly reduce the risk of contracting other sexually transmitted diseases.

2. Sex is an emotional experience and it affects our lives in ways we don't understand. After engaging in premarital sex, many people express feelings of guilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension, and so much more.

Premarital Sex - What If It is Already Too Late?

If you have already engaged in premarital sex, you should make a commitment with God, your boyfriend/girlfriend, and yourself to remain sexually pure from this point on until marriage. Ask God for help and strength to remain sexually pure until marriage. God will provide the strength (Philippians 4:13) and grace to overcome the temptation to have sex, as long as you are willing and careful not to put yourself in a place of temptation.

FEATURED STORY (12/22/09)









If Only You Knew
by Christelle Bianan of ANHS

If only you knew,
how my heart overflows with love for you.
If only you could see
the way you fill my hopes and dreams.
You're the owner of my heart,
the ruler supreme.
Even in the dark of night,
I've only to think about you
to feel your loving light
and from this world I drift
feeling as if
I'll never touch the ground again...
If only you knew.
If only you could guess
how I hear your voice when others speak;
for you hold the key to my happiness,
and it's always you my soul seeks.
If only you could feel,
how your very presence
has the power to heal,
all the wounds inside me.
You've made me abandon
the pain of yesterday,
and you've shown me
that the past can no longer
stand in the way
of what I hope to achieve...
If only you knew.
If only you could realize
the way you've shown me
that it's better to give
than to take,
and whatever I do,
I do for your sake.
I'm willing to give you my all
and expect nothing in return.
But, oh how I yearn
for you...
if only you knew.

In my dreams,
I try to see you
and take in
your whole expanse--
from the beauty
of your smile
to the depths
of your soul
where an ocean swells.
I'm rebuilding you
out of pieces of clay,
with some illogical hope
that you'll materialize
out of the darkness.
The heart alone
can perceive these
dimly lit realities,
and trade longing
for patience.
And I'm living
on the hope
borne of these
dreams of you,
that we'll be
together soon.

FEATURED STORY (12/13/09)









A BIZARRE LOVE 
by Daisy "Yzay" B. Mangubat of SVNHS

First time I saw you, I felt that you will make a difference in my life. Yes It is true! - a strange feeling or a weird imagination - "I don't know" [Kah-OA naku uie]. You are a kind of guy who always turns the gloom into smile and change the loveliest world into a funniest and happiest sphere [char!] You know what? I really want to be your friend but I have no idea of how parallel ways will intersect each other; for there is no such rules of that in Math [unya kay dili mani Math?]. Your circle of friends are inversely proportional to mine, that's the reason why even though your a centimeter near to me yet your so far to accompany with. I just wish and hope that someday [puhon] there will be a linear bridge that will straightly connect you and me.

Time past, many things are changed - somewhat on... Evolution? [nee! murag unggoy paingon sa tao!] But my sensation unto you still stays. I just ignore it - believing it was only part of my unique senses [ehhh?]. World continues to rotate its orbit and revolves around the sun [Science huh!]. Until one night, you came to me - asking me to dance with you. [shock ko uie!]. I wonder what typr of force that pushes you towards me, or maybe it was just the effect of the cold temperature sorrounded us [kadtong JS vah! ulan bya 2 baha p gyud!] in that very second my heart pumped to its fastest beat even I'm very frozen in my displacement cause I'm shy to dance with you. Consequently, you showed an incomparable motion that lead us to the dance floor. We dances together - holding hands [uiE! kahinumdum pako!]. WE moved at a certain velocity depending how the rhythm of music travelled [char! murag Newton's LAw of Inertia!]

It was a vigorous Monday morning after the JS prom when a classmate came to me and revealed something about you [unsa kaha?] she said, you admire me [ hmmp... na garu!] I just smile then afterwards I laughed, a very foolish laugh as if I didn't care of what I've heard but deep inside I really appreciated of what you felt for me. I just hid it. [ana gyud na pa-char-char vah!] You also said to her that I'm beautiful especially during the prom [Duh! lanay ako atay!] but in that moment all I wanted was to be your friend and nothing more. [chur uie?]

We always meet during school days, I often catch you staring at me [ganahan fud ko!] Still I'm confuse! do you really admire me? If yes, then why is that your acting as if you don't know me, as if there's nothing happen to us - I mean the sweet dancing protion during the prom? [nangasaba nman cguro ko!jejeje]. If we meet in the canteen, in the campus' pathways and somewhere else in this world, you never ever say a word - even just one simple "Hi"- I don't understand! I'm highly aware that you are not quiet creature; the clown of your buddies, right? But why are you so silent in front of me? You're like a mute [duh!]. I thought we will become friends after the JS but I'm wrong [wrong jud dis?] 'coz your building a wall between us. Your pals and my friends kept on pushing us and you don't have any reaction [murag dili tao cah!]. The more I don't perceive you - the more I don't understand myself. I feel something special to you [nadevelop ko uie!] inspite of what characteristics you've shown to me [mao?]. Lately, I realized I'm falling in love with you! I felt jealous when I saw you close with a girl, the two of you were so sweet [kulang nalang amigason!] not only that, I am also hurt when I heard you said, you're inlove with someone else. I will kept on loving you even if you already rejected me and left me with an agony in my heart [hu hu hu!!! hatage jud ko ninyo ug candy!]. Honestly it is my first time to feel like this, the love and the pain inside is all b'coz of you [xure?]. You're my first love and first guy who hurt me this way [Duh! kevir!]. Actually, you're not my typical man, you drunk [ingon nila!] and you even smoke [ayna pag deny! kit-an taka!] ou're not so smart nor handsome [cute lang!]. In fact my mind opposes my heart but then I follow what my heart says [graveh naku kah martyr vie!]. I admit, I'm already losing myself because of loving you. I'm sinking deep pain [as in?]. But I will not fight it, I will just get exhausted for I know It's so very hard to move on and forget you, especially I see you almost everyday [pag ting-eskwela]. You can count on me anytime you want. My love is always there for you [graveh huh!]. I will wait for your special feelings to come back, but if not? I will continue suffering the pain until it hurts no more! [nackz!]. I believe I can survive! with the presence of our Almighty God. I know His there for me. He will ease and heal my broken heartache and will give me the best that I deserve to have [I love you Lord!].

Now I'm already aware why I felt something weird towards you when I first saw you. You realy make a difference in my life. As what I've said your the only guy who make me feel so much in love and pain. Your the one who let me see what true love means - it is unconditional and it can even sacrifice because of the desires in our hearts. Thanks for making me feel what kind of love that Jesus have on us.

"Jesus loves us unconditionally; He even sacrifice His own life to save us from sin."

FEATURED STORY (12/10/09)

Pure Love Network 
Made a History!




MEDIA RELEASE
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
09 December 2009
CONTACT: Katie Walker
540.659.4942|
kwalker@all.org
A.L.L.’S FIRST ASSOCIATE IN THE PHILIPPINES A NETWORK OF ‘PURE LOVE’
Washington, DC (09 December 2009) – American Life League welcomed its 106th Associate group this week. The Pure Love Network of Butuan City, Philippines, is a network of young people committed to promoting chastity in every school, campus and community throughout Butuan City.

American Life League president Judie Brown describes the Pure Love Network as “a very special organization.” Brown also commented, “Having visited Manila and the environs three times, I can tell you that this is going to be a growing, thriving organization. We are blessed to welcome them to American Life League’s family of personhood organizations.”

It was formed by Bonifacio Dumago, a social worker committed to teaching youth the simple message of Saint Paul’s First Letter to the Corinthians: Avoid immorality.

The Pure Love Network’s primary activity is the Love Forum, a prayer fellowship and forum for discussing moral and social problems that affect young people, including premarital sex, teenage pregnancy, abortion, sexually transmitted diseases and drug abuse. Its members encourage and pray for each other on a regular basis.
American Life League's Associate Program is a network of pro-life groups dedicated to one simple concept: All innocent human beings are to be protected and defended from the moment of creation until natural death.
American Life League was cofounded in 1979 by Judie Brown. It is the largest grassroots Catholic pro-life organization in the United States and is committed to the protection of all innocent human beings from the moment of creation to natural death.  For more information or press inquiries, please contact Katie Walker at 540.659.4942.
FOR MORE INFORMATION:

American Life League:
Associate Program
http://all.org/associates/
Pure Love Network:
http://purelovenetwork.blogspot.com/
# # #

_______________________________
Katie Walker
Director of Communication
American Life League
1179 Courthouse Road
Stafford, Virginia 22554
540.659.4942
kwalker@all.org
http://www.all.org/

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FEATURED STORY (12/10/09)








Pure Love Network Made a History!

MEDIA RELEASE
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
09 December 2009
CONTACT: Katie Walker
540.659.4942|
kwalker@all.org
A.L.L.’S FIRST ASSOCIATE IN THE PHILIPPINES A NETWORK OF ‘PURE LOVE’
Washington, DC (09 December 2009) – American Life League welcomed its 106th Associate group this week. The Pure Love Network of Butuan City, Philippines, is a network of young people committed to promoting chastity in every school, campus and community throughout Butuan City.

American Life League president Judie Brown describes the Pure Love Network as “a very special organization.” Brown also commented, “Having visited Manila and the environs three times, I can tell you that this is going to be a growing, thriving organization. We are blessed to welcome them to American Life League’s family of personhood organizations.”

It was formed by Bonifacio Dumago, a social worker committed to teaching youth the simple message of Saint Paul’s First Letter to the Corinthians: Avoid immorality.

The Pure Love Network’s primary activity is the Love Forum, a prayer fellowship and forum for discussing moral and social problems that affect young people, including premarital sex, teenage pregnancy, abortion, sexually transmitted diseases and drug abuse. Its members encourage and pray for each other on a regular basis.
American Life League's Associate Program is a network of pro-life groups dedicated to one simple concept: All innocent human beings are to be protected and defended from the moment of creation until natural death.
American Life League was cofounded in 1979 by Judie Brown. It is the largest grassroots Catholic pro-life organization in the United States and is committed to the protection of all innocent human beings from the moment of creation to natural death.  For more information or press inquiries, please contact Katie Walker at 540.659.4942.
FOR MORE INFORMATION:

American Life League:
Associate Program
http://all.org/associates/
Pure Love Network:
http://purelovenetwork.blogspot.com/
# # #

_______________________________
Katie Walker
Director of Communication
American Life League
1179 Courthouse Road
Stafford, Virginia 22554
540.659.4942
kwalker@all.org
http://www.all.org/

FEATURED STORY (12/06/09)



WHAT THE PLEDGERS SAY ABOUT THE LOVE FORUM?


Some comments from the participants regarding the LOVE FORUM last December 5, 2009 at San Vicente National High School, Butuan City.

Shio Ann: " Today's Love Forum is full of enjoyment. I shared lots of fun with my co-pledgers. I really want to invite many friends so that I can help them and they can learn more about life."


Princess Adelrina: " I learned lot's of information specially pregnancy. How to handle my self, and how to protect and heighten my dignity and integrity.I always put in mind that my chastity is the best gift I can give to my future husband."

Daisy: " It is very nice! although it is the 5th time attending love forum, I am still excited and not getting bored. I learn a lot of things. Every love forum I discover new information."


Benjie: "I learned many information that I can apply to my life like preserving my chastity. I really enjoying the love forum even though we're only few this time. I am also happy because there are new pledgers attending."

Karishia Sheena Layka: "I really appreciate it! I learned so many things today. Keep up Pledgers! I hope we can invite more friends next love forum."


Juvelyn: "It is so nice, it is my first time to attend this kind of activity. Maganda ang pagtuturo sa amin. I really appreciated it dahil nadagdagan ang aking kaalaman about love. The teachings will always echoing in my mind after the activity. I am happy because there are concern people who spend time to care and guide us."

Jessa Mae: "The topic we discussed are very good and inspired me to influenced other to preserve our chastity."


Reynalyn: "The love forum today is different from the previous, even though we're not so many, we are happy because there are 1st year students in our school who joined, I consider it a great achievements. I am also very happy seeing myself as a pledger."

Miraluna: " It is nice, bisan bag-o pako, I realize na nindot man diay ang love forum. Giganahan jud ko!"


Richard: "This is a first experience, masaya pala ang love forum...marami akong natutunan."

Shenna Mae: "Nakaka-iyak talaga pag iniisip mo ang mga mahal mo sa buhay. Masaya ang love forum."

Glenne: "Makakatulong sa mga kabataan paanong magmahal sa ibang tao na hindi mo pa kilala at maramdaman mo ang mga nararamdaman ng ibang tao."


Miriam: "Masaya ako at naiiyak din kanina lalo na during sa prayer and the song touches me...nakakatulong ito sa pagmamahal sa Diyos."

Marimar: " Masaya ang love forum dahil nakaka-intindi ako at nakakalungkot din at nakakaiyak pero masays pa rin dahil I pray my family."


Cherrylyn: " Maganda at na appreciate ko ang love forum. Maka relate ka din na ganun pala ang love na ganyan at makikita natin ang moral value ng 'LOVE'."

Noriey: "Ang love forum the best talaga dahil marami kang naiintindihan about love."


Angelica: "Exciting and fun. Maaring mailabas ang mga saloobin at ideya. Maraming matotohan ang mga kabataan. Masaya at hindi lang for love kundi pang God-loving. Makakagaan ng loob."

Dessiren: "I appreciated what we've done together with co-pledgers. This activity could bring us to become a good influence to others through out the years of our life. It give us more information and values that we may always bring. I like it and I really, really love it. Thank you."


Zosmthita: "Ang love forum is not only sharing about love, it includes ang mga panghitabo karon nga panahon or posible na mahitabo. Even though gamay ra ang naka-apil karon, enjoy gihapon kay daghan jud kag makat-unan. Then makahatag pud inspirasyon alang sa atong kaugma-on. Pure Love Network must be promoted to the teenagers, labi na sa mga teenager na weak."   






FEATURED STORY (12/04/09)

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 LAW OF LOVE
 by Rizza Acero of Buenavista, ADN


Did you know that the most important of Divine Laws is the 'law of love.' Put simply, "Love is Law, Law is Love." This amounts to the same thing as "the gift of giving" without the hope of reward or pay, or serving others. When you do the right thing for others you receive gifts in unexpected ways. Paradoxically, those who help you may not be those you help. The help you receive may come from surprisingly distant connections.


Emptiness
Does anyone see me for who I am? Why do I feel like I am walking this life alone?

Did you know that you were created with a need to be in relationship? Yet we often experience the pain of being alone, sometimes even in the middle of a crowd of people.



I want to share this short prayers to all...

"Dear Jesus, I need you to fill my void of emptiness and lack of purpose. Please forgive me of my sin and bring fulfillment to me. I surrender my heart to you and ask that you take control of my life now. Thank you."

FEATURED STORY (12/02/09

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GOD'S WONDERFUL CREATIONS
by Joanne Adormeo  of LNHS


Pre-marital sex and teenage pregnancies causing abortions are some of the factors that destructed the country's image (Philippines). These factors decreased one's dignity and had hindered lives to flourish and discover God's wonderful creations. These calls for something or someone that could prevent those life destructive deeds.

Pure Love Network is a very big help, with it's main advocacy "Preserving Chastity Until Marriage". It is a network making God the center. Man is the temple of the Holy Spirit. It should be always clean, free from sin. I believed that man was created to live, to prepare himself for the nest life - life after death, not to make him/herself sinful.

I know in the years to come, this network will produce clean, high-dignity and God fearing individuals.

FEATURE STORY (11/25/2009)

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A poem submitted by Jayrhom Almanteros of  LNHS, dedicated to all pledgers.

FATHER'S PLANS ARE AMAZING

Your body is the temple of God, and are your kisses more than a party or a movie?
Will you let it be a plaything?
The Loving Father's Plans are amazing...
So why not live in harmony with His purpose and order
In times of weakness, He will give power to overcome!
Do not be influenced by what you hear and see in the world around.
Sex is a choice, but choose to live your sexual life in accordance with God's plans
And keep ourselves pure until marriage is the right...
Nobody, only  God can satisfies your thirst.

FEATURE STORY (11/24/2009)


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Here’s my big message today: You can only have happy relationships if you have happy self-love.
Nope, I’m not talking about narcissism—or extreme selfishness. Here’s why: I believe selfish people don’t really love themselves.
Let me tell you my story.
       Two years ago, I attended my 25th Alumni Homecoming.
It was great catching up with old friends. We were all bigger, balder, and bumpier in various parts of our body.
       But what gave the heebeejeevies was walking through my old school building. I was overwhelmed with a flood of not-so-happy memories. I realized how much I didn’t like school.
You see, I was a very insecure kid.
I was very shy. I was introverted. I had pimples. I was so thin, they called me tipaklong (grasshopper). For Filipinos, my nose was large, so they called it a grand piano hanging on my face.
And some classmates bullied me. They called me names. They pushed me around. They forced me to do errands. And they made me their lifetime supply of pad paper. 
       In youth lingo, I was a Loser with a capital L.
But I felt all my classmates were so confident, so large, so outgoing, and so happy. They loved school. 
And so I asked myself this disturbing question: What is wrong with me?  Hundreds of times a day, I would ask myself this question. And for years, this question was my constant refrain.

What Is Wrong With Me?
25 years later, I know God has healed me because I don’t ask that cynical question as often anymore.
I now love myself.
I’ve grown in confidence.
And I’ve become successful!
       I have a wonderful family and fantastic friends.
       I’ve written bestselling books.
And my pimples are gone.
I’ve grown to my ideal weight.
My face is larger, so my nose isn’t a grand piano anymore. (Now it looks more like a church organ.)
       And thanks to my friend, co-preacher, and couturier, Adrian Panganiban, I dress well. Suits, ties, the works. He makes clothes for showbiz stars and has made it his personal mission to make me look guwapo. I think he has succeeded (Ahem).
But may I be honest with you?
At rare times, I still find myself asking that judgmental question: What is wrong with me?
       It’s amazing how after 25 years, a tiny part of me is still that insecure schoolboy that wanted people to like me.
My problem through all those years? 
I didn’t love myself.
       For decades, my heart was empty of self-love.
       But was my heart really empty? 

Your Heart Filled With Either
Self-Love Or Neediness
Imagine your heart to be an empty bottle.
But it’s not really empty. It’s actually filled with air.
       In the same way, when a human heart doesn’t have self-love, it isn’t empty. It’s filled with neediness.
The air in the bottle is a symbol of neediness.
But if you pour water in it, it pushes air out of the bottle. The more water it has, the less air it has.
       That water is self-love.
I believe the only solution to neediness is self-love.
If you learn to love yourself, you’ll push out neediness from your heart. The more you love yourself, the less neediness you have. The less you love yourself, the more neediness you have.
       Would you know neediness if you saw it?

Do You Have Neediness?
       Neediness, or a lack of self-love, is expressed in so many ways. Here are a few of them…
·        Some, like me, become people-pleasers. They’ll be kind, gentle, and smile at everybody so they’ll be liked. Because their substitute for self-love is to be liked.
·        Some achieve a lot, get good grades, and do great things. Because their substitute for self-love is to be admired.
·        Some rebel, get angry, disobey, and reject everyone. Because they’re substitute to be loved is to receive attention.
·        Some become victims of abuse. (Read my example later.)
As I said, I expressed my neediness in the first way—by becoming a good guy. All these years, people thought I was such a loving person. (I fooled you, didn’t I?)
But in reality, I wasn’t giving love; I was buying love.
I wasn’t giving love; I was giving neediness. Because you can only give what is in your heart.
Boy, was I miserable! 
Because I lacked self-love, it was impossible to have a healthy, happy, relationship with others.
       Let me tell you an extreme example…

The Need To Be Needed
Angela is married to her college sweetheart Marty.
But Marty is an alcoholic.
A few times a month, he comes home very drunk and beats Angela. He gives her a black eye. Slaps on the face. Bruises on the arm. 
When he wakes up, he doesn’t even remember what he did. 
Marty kneels down before a battered Angela and asks for forgiveness. He’s totally repentant and sobs like a baby.
But one or two weeks after, he gets drunk again and beats her up again. This insanity has been going on for seven years.
Many friends have told Angela to leave Marty. And she has. But Marty would find her and beg her to return. And out of love, she would return home—only to be beaten again.
But is it really out of love?
No. It’s neediness.
Specifically, the need to be needed.
Like me, Angela’s heart is filled with neediness, begging for love. Because she can’t find love, she mistakes being needed as love. And she finds it in her sick husband.
Angela’s neediness attracted Marty’s neediness. Two needy people needing each other. It was the perfect recipe for an unhappy marriage. (I’ll talk more about this later.)
I talked to Angela.
I told her the harsh truth, “You don’t really love her husband.”
“How could you say that?” she said, “That’s why I’ve stuck with him…”
“If you really loved him, and not needed him, you would have run away from him a long time ago and never went near him until he stopped drinking for at least 6 to 12 months. He doesn’t need gentle love. He needs tough love. Are you willing to give that?”
She closed her eyes and wept.

The Problem Of The Needy Heart
I’m going to expose my age again.
Remember this song by Basil Valdez? “It’s your smile, your face, your lips that I miss; your sweet little eyes that stare at me and make me say, I’ll be with you through all the way, ‘Cause it’s you, Who fills the emptiness in me…”
Lovely song. But here’s what I learned about relationships: An empty heart can only give emptiness.  And emptiness is another word for neediness.
Have you heard this song by Barry Manilow? “You know I can’t smile without you, I can’t smile without You, I can’t laugh and I can’t sing, I’m findin’ it hard to do anything…”
I’ll be scared if I have a friend who can’t smile without me.
I’ll be scared if I have kids who can’t smile without me.
I’ll be scared if I have a wife who can’t smile without me.
Or have you heard this one by Mariah Carrey?  “I can’t live if living is without you, I can’t live, I can’t live anymore…”
Beautiful song. But if you’re looking for a spouse, I strongly urge you to look for someone who can actually live without you—but who will choose to live with you—not because he needs you, but because he loves you.
But this isn’t that easy. Again, I must warn you: Neediness attracts neediness. A needy heart is naturally attracted to another needy heart. The reason is obvious. If you can’t get love, might as well get its counterfeit: neediness. 
That’s why some women are jerk magnets. They’re attracted to bad guys because they need to be needed.
The only solution? Replace neediness with self-love.
Because you can only have healthy relationships if you have healthy self-love.

Five Ways Of Filling Your Heart
With Self-Love
      
       Let me share with you the five powerful ways of how to fill your heart with self-love. I’ve tried them. They work marvellously.
       Many relationships are suffering right now because of neediness. When you learn to love yourself, your relationships will be freed from neediness. And your relationships with become so much happier.
But I must warn you: Five is a big number. You won’t remember them all. What I want you to do is choose one thing that you believe God wants you to do today. Just one!
Here they are:
1. Believe in your own worthiness
2. Fulfil your dreams
3. Care for your needs
4. Relate with the right God
5. Relate with the right people

Step 1:
Believe In Your Worthiness
Do this for me.
Place your hands over your chest and say this out loud, “I’m a wonderful human being. I’m a beautiful person. I’m blessed. I’m equipped. I’m anointed. I’m talented.    I’m loved. I’m prosperous. I’m generous. I’m wealthy in every way.”
Do you feel better?
Then say these statements twice a day, once in the morning and once before you sleep at night!
Personally, I had to change my constant question in my mind. Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?” I had to start asking, “What’s right about me?”
Get a piece of paper and answer that question. Write whatever comes to mind. The longer the list, the better!
       Second, go to a loved one—and ask her, “What’s right about me? What’s great about me? What’s wonderful about me?”
Write down her answers.
And echo the Psalms when it says, I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
       When you appreciate your worth, it’ll be much easier to appreciate the worth of others. And you’ll find your relationships growing in love.

Step 2:
Fulfil Your Dreams
       This actually saved me.
       I wasn’t very good with Step 1, “Believe In Your Worthiness”.
       But by God’s grace, I learned my mission early. I gave my first talk as a 13-year old boy and it changed my life. I suddenly knew my sacred mission.
       I learned to dream about my ministry a long time ago.
       But I had a hard time dreaming about my dreams—like what house I wanted to live in and how much money I wanted to earn or what car I wanted to drive. Because I felt this would be selfish. Shouldn’t my whole life be for God alone? 
But years later, I learned that to honor those dreams in my heart was to honor God who gave me those dreams.
I began to love myself by working on fulfilling my dreams.
Do yourself a big favor. First, know your dreams. Second, go and reach for your dreams.
Why will this bless your relationships? Because once you honor your dreams, you’ll be able to honor the dreams of others too. You’ll encourage people in your life to grow.

Step 3:
Care For Your Needs
      
       My wife calls me a low-maintenance husband.
       I don’t need much to be happy.
       A part of that is good. But a part of that comes from my past: For years, I felt guilty if I wanted something. Like it was a bad thing. I had to wrestle with that too.
       Later on, I learned to be aware of my needs and meet them generously.
       One of my strongest needs is to be quiet, to be alone, to read a book, to reflect. So I give that to myself as often as I can.
       My other need is to exercise regularly.
       And when I’m exhausted, I get a massage. My wife knows that if I want to feel loved, she’ll give me a foot massage. It beats a delicious casserole anytime.
       And about money. There was a time when I didn’t like spending for myself, just for others. Again, I felt selfish if I did. 
I could spend money as long as it’s for God or for others. But I’ve always had a hard time spending for my own needs.
Hey, perhaps this isn’t your problem. I know others who come from the opposite direction: All they do is spend for themselves and don’t give to God or others. Well, I believe God will pull you towards my direction. And we’ll meet somewhere in the middle!
But slowly, I’m learning. Last month, I bought a nice pair of headphones for myself.  It was the noise-cancelling headphones, great when you want to sleep in airplanes. I still couldn’t buy the expensive brand that costs P5000. So I just bought the cheap brand worth P800. But still, I felt wonderful.
       Being a simple person, I still have very few needs. But those needs, I try to honor whenever I can.
       Go ahead. Write your own needs on a piece of paper. And see how you can honor them too. 
Again, this simple act will bless your relationships because you can now serve people’s needs with a heart full of love, not neediness.

Step 4:
Relate To The Right Image of God
I’ve met people whose God is always angry and condemning. Then I’m sorry, prayer won’t help. Because you’re praying to the wrong god.
Fix your picture of God.
Read books on God’s Love. Talk to spiritual people who have the right image of God. Capture this vision.
And allow that God to love you.
Let Him whisper to your heart that you’re more wonderful than you can ever imagine.
This is one of the goals of the GodWhispersClub. If you’re not yet subscribed, log on at www.GodWhispersClub.com. You’ll get a GodWhispers Email twice a week. It’s free.
       When you change your image of God, your relationships with others will change by leaps and bounds because you become like the God that you worship. If you worship a judgmental god, you’ll be judgmental too. But if you start worshipping a God of great compassion and love, you’ll (slowly) be like Him too.

Step 5:
Relate To The Right People
Remember: Needy people attract needy people.
So be careful with the people who enter into your life.
If you’re not careful, you may end up with an inappropriate number of what many authors call “Emotional Vampires”. These are people who suck out your love and joy. There are many kinds of Emotional Vampires: The Demanding. The arrogant and the self-righteous. The bitter. The unfaithful. The manipulative. Addicts. Parasites. Complainers. Critics.
Imagine your life as a three-seater couch.
Because you only have 24 hours a day, there’s a limit to the people who you can hang out with—in the same way that there are a limited number of people who can sit on that couch.
If the spaces are filled, they’re filled. Your life isn’t like Facebook where you can accommodate 5000 friends.
Here’s my point: If you’re always hanging out with Emotional Vampires who suck out your love, you won’t have time to hang out with great, nourishing, and inspiring people who can give you love.
Look. I’m not saying you should get rid of your toxic spouse or toxic mother. I’m not saying you don’t spend time with needy people. Love them! Remember that Jesus spent time with tax-collectors, prostitutes, and drunkards, reaching out to them in love. That was His main ministry. But He balanced this by spending time with his disciples and with His Father too.
So increase your time with people whose hearts aren’t filled with neediness but love. When you surround yourself with the right people, you fill your heart with love too. So look for mentors, teachers, and coaches who can bless you.
It could even be a virtual mentor. 
For example, by reading my Soulfood Letter each week, you’re “spending time” with me. You’ve made me a virtual mentor. (I’m happy to be of service to you.)
Proverbs 13:20 says, Whoever walks with the wise will become wise; whoever walks with fools will suffer harm.

Choose One Assignment From God
       Now that you’ve read all five actions, pick one.
       Not two, or three, or four, or five.
       Just one assignment from God for today.
1. Believe in your own worthiness
2. Fulfil your dreams
3. Care for your needs
4. Relate with the right God
5. Relate with the right people
       Done?
       Great.
But hey, whatever you chose is still pretty broad.
Write down what one specific action you can do today.
       Love yourself, my friend.
       May your dreams come true,
       Bo Sanchez



FEATURED STORY (11/14/2009)

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Some SVNHS students joins our advocacy

A Love Forum was conducted at San Vicente National High School last November 14, 2009.
Fourteen students from the said school attended and two other from other school.
The activities follows this program:
I. Song Practice
II. Praise and Worhsip
III. Getting Started: STRESS or CRISIS QUIZ
IV. Group Dynamics: CRISIS & POSSIBLE SCENARIO
V. Deepening: ISSUES OF THE YOUNG - THE PHILIPPINE SCENARIO
VI. Orientation on PURE LOVE NETWORK
VII. Pledge of Commitment signing and prayer
VIII. Commissioning
IX. Closing Prayer

X. Reminders