PURE LOVE NETWORK - BASIC ORIENTATION SEMINAR (PLN-BOS) BATCH 1 - 2010

Pure Love Network – Basic Orientation Seminar (PLN-BOS) is a program educating the young the basic of sexuality and skills of gender sensitivity and nonviolent communication.

The program is design as an invitation to the young people to take responsibility, to take action in response to the overwhelming message of lust and violence.

Overview of the program:

Topic 1: SEXUALITY
Refers to our total masculinity and femininity. It consist of the way we behave, think, and feel. It   includes our belief in God, our moral values. Then comes the physical aspect of sex. All of these make up our sexuality. It involves more than our body. Human sexuality is all the physical, spiritual, mental and emotional traits that make us male and female.

Topic 2: HOMOSEXUALITY
Homosexuality is the state of a person sexually drawn to members of the same sex. Homosexual acts are genital acts performed with persons of the same sex.
It is important to note that:
  • A person may be a homosexual but not engage in homosexual acts, that is, he/she lives a happy life of chastity.
  • A person may not be a homosexual, but nevertheless engage in homosexual acts.
  • There is a spectrum of personality types going from completely heterosexual orientation to homosexual orientation.
Topic 3: GENDER SENSITIVITY
Gender Sensitivity is the ability to recognize gender issues, especially women’s different perceptions and interests arising from their unique social location and gender roles. It calls for an understanding and        consideration of the socio-cultural factors underlying discrimination based on sex (whether against women or men).

Topic 4: NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION (NVC)
Nonviolent Communication is a combination of thinking and language, as well as a means of using power designed to serve a specific intention. This intention is to create the quality of connection with other people and oneself that allows compassionate giving to take place.

PLN – BOS takes off last April 29 – 30, 2010 held at PLN Center, Por Cristo, Provincial Hospital, Libertad, Butuan City.  It was participated by six active participants.

After the two-day orientation seminar the participants gave the following feedbacks:

Markeen: “I am so blessed... thanks for the enlightenment, I learned a lot. I am hoping that it will not end here.”

Joanne: “The seminar is good, not boring. Although were few but still we are lively and happy.”

Jindy: “It is a great experience to have the freedom to express your thought and be one with God through being chaste. The Lectures where so substantial thus it is an eye-opener and it is needed to be shared to others. It is very educational, fun and fulfilling experience.”

Jocelyn: “It helps me identify myself, and try to think ways and actions that are good to me and to others. The activity will teach the teens to show respect and give equality to others.”

Darlyn: “I was amazed of what it had given me, I really gained a lot of things today that are so significant to self development. I learned now how to appreciate the value of respect, love and interacting with other people. I realized that violence are ruling the world, through the activity
I feel responsible to myself, the young and the future generation. Also, I felt that I have the power/responsibility to share and pass the knowledge I’ve learned.”

Khirstene Kheene: “I’m so thankful & I blessed nga naka-apil ko aning PLN-BOS, daghan gyud kaayo ko’g nakat-onan. Na enligthened ang akong mind, the way I really feel and the way I act and behave... I hope and pray nga hatagan ko’g strength and courage to share the knowledge and wisdom I’ve learned and discovered. ”

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HOMOSEXUALS: Roles on HIV and AIDS Prevention

What is a Homosexual?

1. Based on “frequency of homosexual activity”?
Someone whose sexual experience has been exclusively with the same sex and with no heterosexual  experience at all.
Classifications: some are “more or less” homosexual, others are “exclusively” homosexual throughout
their  entire history

2. Based on the “dynamics of sexual attraction” or  “sexual orientation”?

Classifications:
  • Absolute homosexuals – sexually attracted to persons of  same sex only
  • Amphigenic homosexuals – those sexually attracted equally to both male and female
  • Contingent homosexuals – those attracted to their own sex when the opposite sex is not available
3. Based on sexual attraction determined largely by circumstances and availability of sexual partners (Pseudo-homosexuality)

Type 1: “Exploratory” homosexuality
Happens during a stage in a person’s psycho-sexual Development “homosexual play” out of sexual curiosity, discovery or exploration.. Is NOT a sign of a homosexual personality

Type 2: “Occasional” homosexuality
No one is exclusively heterosexual; every personality has the animus (masculine) and the anima (feminine)
When a person’s animus and anima are not at peace with each other, one result is a sexual attraction to person of same sex
An experience of deep “emotional struggle” (doubts and fears about his/her masculinity or femininity). He or she needs proper guidance or professional help
Not necessarily an indication of homosexual personality.

Type 3: “Environmental” homosexuality
Prolonged homosexual relations and activity due to circumstancesor environment exclusively composed of persons of the same sex

  E.g., prisoners act out their sexual needs with the only persons   
  available; one partner assumes the “female” role; but returns to 
  heterosexual lifestyle when freed from prison

  E.g., (seminaries & boarding schools) adolescent students
  develop  their emotional capacity and discover their sexual needs 
  by bonding with same sex in the absence of the opposite sex

Not necessarily a sign of homosexual personality.
But without proper guidance and healthy relations with opposite sex,  
it may lead to a fixed homosexual personality.

Factors / Causes of a Homosexual

1. Organic factors/causes?
  • Imbalance secretions in the endocrine glands                                                                                  (e.g., lack of androgen in a male results to sexual drive to a fellow male)?
  • Irregularity in genital organs and structure                                                                                       (e.g., “female build” of a male leads to homosexual desire)?
  • Not conclusive due to absence of evidence                                                                                    (e.g., many homosexuals have perfectly normal build-up, and have normal endocrine secretions)
2. Genetic factors?
  • Homosexuality is due to heredity                                                                                                      (e.g. genetic characteristics contained in the genes we have inherited)?
  • Homosexuality is due to pre-natal influences (e.g., “imbalance of hormones” before birth)
  • Not conclusive due to absence of scientific evidence; though research is ongoing
3. Psychological factors?
A homosexual personality is  a manifestation of levels of confusion in one’s self-awareness, self -understanding, and self-acceptance of one’s self-identity and one’s way of total sexual expression as male or female.

4. Confused relationships during the child’s crucial years of growth (e.g., when child is rejected by parent of opposite sex; seduction of child by parent; when parent is rejected by the child of the opposite sex)

5. Long-period of separation of the child from parents (prolonged absence of one or both parents may lead to confusion in role models)

6.Sexual immaturity vis-à-vis growth issues and problems (when one becomes “fixated” in the  homosexual stage of adolescent years)

7. Mistreatment of one parent by the other (e.g., where father is cruel to the mother, the boy may hate the father and his male identity)

8.Other possible factors
  • Cruel or excessive punishment for “sex play” during childhood; or excessive parental concern or anxiety about possible sexual misdeeds.
  • Poor sexual information and misunderstanding.
  • Satisfying homosexual experiences in early life may influence homosexual attraction later in life.
  • Confusion in child’s sexual identification by being treated as though of the opposite sex.
  • A child who cannot find affection in the home may find it in persons seeking homosexual outlet.
  • Lack of effective role models (e.g., male as “Macho”; female as “Maria Clara”).

Lessons and Challenges

1. Always distinguish a HOMOSEXUAL PERSON from a HOMOSEXUAL ACTIVITY

2.NO ONE is a homosexual person by choice

3. Genital activity such as sodomy, oral sex, mutual masturbation, or pedophilia are NOT exclusively homosexual activities; they can also be heterosexual acts

4.Homosexual personality or homosexual attraction does NOT make one a sex pervert or an immoral person

5.Persons with homosexual orientation, attraction or preference can still live very chaste, moral, edifying and productive lives

6. Conquer “homophobia”
  • Expose, challenge, and reject the distorted, misguided, and un fair designations, stereotypes and attitudes we have on homosexual persons.
  • Help homosexual persons liberate themselves from the negative stereotyping they have absorbed and accepted from society
  • Avoid moral judgments on homosexual persons simply because of their sexual orientation
7. Conquer ignorance & isolation
Heterosexual people who know gays and lesbians personally as friends or as relatives are MORE ACCEPTING of homosexuals than those who do not know or have homosexuals as friends

SABAKAN Sexuality Program

The Advocacy Director of Pure Love Network attended a Seminar-Workshop on Sabakan Sexuality Program at Carmelite Retreat House, Malaubang, Ozamis City on April 5 to 25, 2010.

Sabakan – Ministry to Women and Children’s Concern is a church-based, non-government organization of the Diocese of Pagadian.

It has become a center for the healing of abused women and children and give free legal assistance to indigent clients.

It also becomes a training and resource center for the advocacy, promotion and protection of the human rights of women and children using creative methodology.

Sabakan Sexuality Program (SSP) is three-week training for social workers, teachers, community leaders, and anyone working on women and children. SSP was started on the year 1998 and conducted every year.

The seminar-workshop tackles the following:

I. SEXUALITY & SPIRITUALITY

Sexuality and spirituality play a major role in the force that gives life. When God created man and woman to his image and likeness, sexuality and spirituality is the twin gift given to each and everyone. These are the two aspects of our lives that cannot be separated, these comprises the wholeness of human being.

II. GENDER SENSIVITY TRAINING (GST)

What is GST?

GST is a skill knowing the truth that women and men were all victims in this crisis situation.

It is not a competition of men and women.

It’s not against men rather to be aware of the causes why there is violence against women.

III. PATRIARCHY


Within feminist theory, patriarchy refers to the structure of modern cultural and political systems, which are ruled by men. Such system are said to be detrimental to the rights of women. However, it has been noted that patriarchal systems of government do not benefit all men.

IV. HOMOSEXUALITY

What is true homosexuality?

A persistent and post-adolescent state of being in which the object of sexual attraction is a person of the same sex, and there is a simultaneous abhorrence or aversion from sexual relations with the opposite sex

V. VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN

Any act/acts committed by any person against:  a woman who may be the wife/former wife, or with whom the abuser has or had a sexual/dating relationship, or with whom the abuser has a common child; or the woman’s child, whether legitimate or illegitimate.

The acts are committed within or outside the family residence

The acts result in physical, sexual, psychological harm or suffering, economic abuse, threat of such acts, battery, assault, coercion, harassment or deprivation of liberty.

VI. VIOLENCE AGAINST CHILDREN

What is child abuse?

Although there are many formal and acceptable definitions of child abuse, the following is offered as a guide for information on child abuse and neglect.


Child abuse consists of any act of commission or omission that endangers or impairs a child's physical or emotional health and development. Child abuse includes any damage done to a

child which cannot be reasonably explained and which is often  represented by an injury or series of injuries appearing to be non-accidental in nature.


VII. SELF-AWARENESS

VIII. NON-VIOLENCE COMMUNICATION


Non-Violence Communication is a powerful process for compassionate connection and action.

Provides a framework and set of skills to address human problems, from the most intimate relationships to global conflicts.

IX. ACTIVE PARENTING

Active parenting is more of a proactive approach. You don't wait for a child to do something wrong but try to instill values and morals that will be the foundation for their character as they grow up. That is the basis and purpose of active parenting.

X. PREVENTION EDUCATION AGAINST CHILD ABUSE

XI. REPUBLIC ACT 9262


AN ACT DEFINING VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN AND THEIR CHILDREN, PROVIDING FOR PROTECTIVE MEASURES FOR VICTIMS, PRESCRIBING PENALTIES THEREFORE, AND FOR OTHER PURPOSES

XII. HIV & AIDS

HIV:  Human Immunodeficiency Virus (Retrovirus, Luc Montagnier, Paris 1983)

AIDS: Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome - comes about as a result of damage to the immune system

XIII. MENTAL HEALTH

XIV. CREATIVE HEALING METHODOLOGY


The training indeed widens and equipped Pure Love Network in advocating the protection of children and youth.