Skills Workshops



Skills Workshops on Leadership, Gender Sensitivity, and Nonviolent Communication was held at Amparo National High School, Amparo, Butuan City on October 9, 2010.


Six student leaders of Pure Love Network from the said school attended the workshop.  Objectives of the workshop are to enhance the leadership skills of the student leaders, to introduce gender sensitivity skills, and to teach the participants a new skill in communicating, connecting, and relating to others.

The activity is part of PLN Leadership & Capability Enhancement Program

The participants are thankful for the new experiences,  learning, and to the sponsors of the workshop.

May we hear from their own words:


Dondon, "Marami pong salamat sa training, marami po akong natutunan. Naibahagi ko din ang kalagayan ko at ng aking pamilya at naparinggan ko din ang buhay ng aking mga kasamahan sa workshop."

Novy, "I am so very happy nga naka attend ko sa workshop, daghan kaayo ko ug nasabtan sa akong kinabuhi og pagkatao. ingon man nasabtan nako ang akong kahimtang karon kung unsaon pag handle. I hope nga kini magpadayon kanunay."

Jeffy, "I have learning na nakuha, I recall my past nga naka hinuklog nga dili maayo ang akong gipangbuhat tung-una. Nag enjoy pud ko kaayo. Salamat."

Ronnie, "Daghang salamat sa workshop, nakakat-on ko karon og unsay angay buhaton."

Joram, "Naging maluwag at masaya and aking puso't damdamin, salamat, marami akong natutunan kung gaano kahalaga ang ating buhay, pamilya, kaibigan at Panginoon."

Marisa, "I am so glad and very thankful to God nga naay instrumento nga iyang gigamit para maliwanagan ang buo kong pagkatao."


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Skills Workshops on Leadership, Gender Sensitivity, and Nonviolent Communication was held at Libertad National High School, Libertad, Butuan City on October 2, 2010.

Five student leaders of Pure Love Network from the said school attended the workshop.
The activity is part of PLN Leadership & Capability Enhancement Program. 

The participants not only learned the skills but also experienced healing from negative feelings and experiences. Let me share to you what they said after the workshop.

Samuel, "Daghan kog nahibaloan, ug miloag-luag ang akong gibati. Nawala pud ang kasakit sa ako huna-huna, unta daghan nami sa sunod activity."

Jamaica, "Enjoy ang activity, daghan kog na learned, daghan kay ma express. Ma share nimo ang imong nasayran, interested og ma bonding nimo ang mga participants. Thankful ko to join the Pure Love Network kay nakasayud ko sa mga butang nga wala pa naku nasayran, daghna ko'y na meet na lesson nga naka open sa akong mind. It is very interesting and joyful. Swerti mi kay kami nga section napili nga maka apil sa PLN Programs."

Jestoni, "Napakahalaga ng natutunan ko ngayon, paano maging pinuno, paano mapalapit sa Dios, paano ang maging responsabling kabataan. Sana tuloy-tuloy na ito hangang sa susunod ng mga taon. Napakaganda ng feeling ko, kaya kong lampasan lahat ng pagsubok. Isa itong magandang instrumento para sa magandang kinabukasan, at gabay sa pag-unlad ng bawat kabataan. Unexpectable and unforgettable moment."

Jenielyn, " Enjoy, daghan og activity. Bisag gamay ra mi nahimong malipayon ang among gihimo sa workshos. Happy pud ko kay nabuhat nako ang mga tasks as a leader."

Ray Jann, "I learned more about love and trust. Being a leader is hard, but I have to give my best. Believe in yourself that you make things to happen, do not surrender when tiral come along the way, with God, family, friends, and loved ones, you will succeed."

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Pre-Marital Sex

by Cristylyn Haya, 4th year, Amparo National High School

Bilang isang kabataan at mamayan, nakakita at nakakarinig sa mga pangyayaring kinakasangkutan ng mga kabataan, ang "Premarital Sex"! Paano ba natin ito maiiwassan o mapigilan? Patuloy ang pagdami ng mga gumagawa nito. Paano ba sila napasok dito?

Sa napapansin ko sa anitong uri ng suliranin, napasok sila dahil ang iba ay naghahanap ng makalinga, pansin, makausap o kaya maka-aliw sa panahon ng ikaw ay nag-iisa. Kasi sa panahong ito ang mga magulang ay wala, busy sa trabaho o kaya ay nangingibang bansa. Meron ding iba gumagawa nito dahil gusto nilang mabawasan ang bigat ng problemang dinadala, tulad na ng hindi matanggap ang paghihiwalay ng mga magulang o kaya biglang pagkawala ng isa sa mga mahal sa buhay. Ngunit may paraan pa upang mapigilan ang patuloy na paglaki sa suliraning ito:
  1. Pagkakaroon ng mga programa na nagpapaloob ng mga pag-aaral na nagbibigay liwanag o paliwanag sa mga katanungan ng mga kabataan.
  2. Pagkakaroon ng mga iba't-ibang paligsahan na magbibigay kasiyahan sa mga kabataan.
  3. Pagkakaroon ng Teen Counsel kung saan pwedi mong isabi sa kanila o ipamahagi ang iyong problema.
Sa pamamagitan nito maaring ang kabataan ay makapag-isip ng kagandahan o may malalim na pag-iisip o pag-unawa sa mga pangyayari.

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by Ma. Juresa Bonghanoy, 4th year, Amparo National High School

Marami tayong dapat panagutan pag tayo ay papasok na sa gawaing kritikal lalo na pag tayo ay bata pa at wala pa sa ensaktong edad para maging magulang sa bawat bata o supling na ating iluluwal sa mundo. Tandaan nating gawin ang mga sumusunod:
  1.  Isa-isip nating mabuti kung ano ang magiging epekto sa ating ginagawa.
  2. Dapat magabayan natin ang mga kabataan ngayon upang hindi sila mapunta sa maling landas.
  3. Gagawa ng mga programa para sa mga kabataan.
  4. Tutulong sa mga aktibidades sa pamahalaan at pamayanan.
  5. Gawing larawan ang kahirapang nakikitang pangyayari kapag maagng nag bubuntis.

Sex Education

Sex education has been one of the hottest talks in the country, thanks be to God for the newly appointed DepEd Secretary Bro. Armin Luistro, he ordered to stop the implementation of sex education that has been integrated to secondary subjects and even to grade six and five.


Pure Love Network is not against sex education; it is that there are factors to be considered before bringing the subject to the classrooms. First, who influenced the decision of making sex education a subject in school curriculum? If majority of the parents are requesting for it, then DepEd should think about it. Second, who made the module of the subject? The materials to be used for teaching the subject should be made in collaboration with the teachers of morality (church) and other groups representing the sector of the parents and not from a ready-made by aliens who just want to distort the Filipino values and principles. Third, are the teachers ready to teach sex education to the children? Educator should be comfortable with his or her own sexuality to effectively explain the subject matter. We might learn later that even to their own children they could not discuss about sex and other topics related to it. And fourth, how can we assure that the moral conviction of the teacher conformed to the established norms we have?


PLN strategy is based on the notion that the greatest need of this generation is “Intimacy and Affirmation.” Our program is designed to established relationships to the students creating a venue of genuine intimacy on which each member can help and support each other. With PLN’s leadership and capability schemes the student’s ideals, creativity, and innovative are affirmed. PLN will initiate an opportunities for the members to express and do of what they believe can make them a better and mature persons.                   


Currently, six public high schools in Butuan City accepted Pure Love Network programs, educating more than four hundred fifty students. There will be a session with these students once a week in their respective schools. This school year, we aim to educate and empower two thousand (2,000) young people.


Be part of this noble cause, feel free to contact us or become a PLN Friend.


Bonifacio P. Dumago
Advocacy Director

PURE LOVE NETWORK - BASIC ORIENTATION SEMINAR (PLN-BOS) BATCH 1 - 2010

Pure Love Network – Basic Orientation Seminar (PLN-BOS) is a program educating the young the basic of sexuality and skills of gender sensitivity and nonviolent communication.

The program is design as an invitation to the young people to take responsibility, to take action in response to the overwhelming message of lust and violence.

Overview of the program:

Topic 1: SEXUALITY
Refers to our total masculinity and femininity. It consist of the way we behave, think, and feel. It   includes our belief in God, our moral values. Then comes the physical aspect of sex. All of these make up our sexuality. It involves more than our body. Human sexuality is all the physical, spiritual, mental and emotional traits that make us male and female.

Topic 2: HOMOSEXUALITY
Homosexuality is the state of a person sexually drawn to members of the same sex. Homosexual acts are genital acts performed with persons of the same sex.
It is important to note that:
  • A person may be a homosexual but not engage in homosexual acts, that is, he/she lives a happy life of chastity.
  • A person may not be a homosexual, but nevertheless engage in homosexual acts.
  • There is a spectrum of personality types going from completely heterosexual orientation to homosexual orientation.
Topic 3: GENDER SENSITIVITY
Gender Sensitivity is the ability to recognize gender issues, especially women’s different perceptions and interests arising from their unique social location and gender roles. It calls for an understanding and        consideration of the socio-cultural factors underlying discrimination based on sex (whether against women or men).

Topic 4: NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION (NVC)
Nonviolent Communication is a combination of thinking and language, as well as a means of using power designed to serve a specific intention. This intention is to create the quality of connection with other people and oneself that allows compassionate giving to take place.

PLN – BOS takes off last April 29 – 30, 2010 held at PLN Center, Por Cristo, Provincial Hospital, Libertad, Butuan City.  It was participated by six active participants.

After the two-day orientation seminar the participants gave the following feedbacks:

Markeen: “I am so blessed... thanks for the enlightenment, I learned a lot. I am hoping that it will not end here.”

Joanne: “The seminar is good, not boring. Although were few but still we are lively and happy.”

Jindy: “It is a great experience to have the freedom to express your thought and be one with God through being chaste. The Lectures where so substantial thus it is an eye-opener and it is needed to be shared to others. It is very educational, fun and fulfilling experience.”

Jocelyn: “It helps me identify myself, and try to think ways and actions that are good to me and to others. The activity will teach the teens to show respect and give equality to others.”

Darlyn: “I was amazed of what it had given me, I really gained a lot of things today that are so significant to self development. I learned now how to appreciate the value of respect, love and interacting with other people. I realized that violence are ruling the world, through the activity
I feel responsible to myself, the young and the future generation. Also, I felt that I have the power/responsibility to share and pass the knowledge I’ve learned.”

Khirstene Kheene: “I’m so thankful & I blessed nga naka-apil ko aning PLN-BOS, daghan gyud kaayo ko’g nakat-onan. Na enligthened ang akong mind, the way I really feel and the way I act and behave... I hope and pray nga hatagan ko’g strength and courage to share the knowledge and wisdom I’ve learned and discovered. ”

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HOMOSEXUALS: Roles on HIV and AIDS Prevention

What is a Homosexual?

1. Based on “frequency of homosexual activity”?
Someone whose sexual experience has been exclusively with the same sex and with no heterosexual  experience at all.
Classifications: some are “more or less” homosexual, others are “exclusively” homosexual throughout
their  entire history

2. Based on the “dynamics of sexual attraction” or  “sexual orientation”?

Classifications:
  • Absolute homosexuals – sexually attracted to persons of  same sex only
  • Amphigenic homosexuals – those sexually attracted equally to both male and female
  • Contingent homosexuals – those attracted to their own sex when the opposite sex is not available
3. Based on sexual attraction determined largely by circumstances and availability of sexual partners (Pseudo-homosexuality)

Type 1: “Exploratory” homosexuality
Happens during a stage in a person’s psycho-sexual Development “homosexual play” out of sexual curiosity, discovery or exploration.. Is NOT a sign of a homosexual personality

Type 2: “Occasional” homosexuality
No one is exclusively heterosexual; every personality has the animus (masculine) and the anima (feminine)
When a person’s animus and anima are not at peace with each other, one result is a sexual attraction to person of same sex
An experience of deep “emotional struggle” (doubts and fears about his/her masculinity or femininity). He or she needs proper guidance or professional help
Not necessarily an indication of homosexual personality.

Type 3: “Environmental” homosexuality
Prolonged homosexual relations and activity due to circumstancesor environment exclusively composed of persons of the same sex

  E.g., prisoners act out their sexual needs with the only persons   
  available; one partner assumes the “female” role; but returns to 
  heterosexual lifestyle when freed from prison

  E.g., (seminaries & boarding schools) adolescent students
  develop  their emotional capacity and discover their sexual needs 
  by bonding with same sex in the absence of the opposite sex

Not necessarily a sign of homosexual personality.
But without proper guidance and healthy relations with opposite sex,  
it may lead to a fixed homosexual personality.

Factors / Causes of a Homosexual

1. Organic factors/causes?
  • Imbalance secretions in the endocrine glands                                                                                  (e.g., lack of androgen in a male results to sexual drive to a fellow male)?
  • Irregularity in genital organs and structure                                                                                       (e.g., “female build” of a male leads to homosexual desire)?
  • Not conclusive due to absence of evidence                                                                                    (e.g., many homosexuals have perfectly normal build-up, and have normal endocrine secretions)
2. Genetic factors?
  • Homosexuality is due to heredity                                                                                                      (e.g. genetic characteristics contained in the genes we have inherited)?
  • Homosexuality is due to pre-natal influences (e.g., “imbalance of hormones” before birth)
  • Not conclusive due to absence of scientific evidence; though research is ongoing
3. Psychological factors?
A homosexual personality is  a manifestation of levels of confusion in one’s self-awareness, self -understanding, and self-acceptance of one’s self-identity and one’s way of total sexual expression as male or female.

4. Confused relationships during the child’s crucial years of growth (e.g., when child is rejected by parent of opposite sex; seduction of child by parent; when parent is rejected by the child of the opposite sex)

5. Long-period of separation of the child from parents (prolonged absence of one or both parents may lead to confusion in role models)

6.Sexual immaturity vis-à-vis growth issues and problems (when one becomes “fixated” in the  homosexual stage of adolescent years)

7. Mistreatment of one parent by the other (e.g., where father is cruel to the mother, the boy may hate the father and his male identity)

8.Other possible factors
  • Cruel or excessive punishment for “sex play” during childhood; or excessive parental concern or anxiety about possible sexual misdeeds.
  • Poor sexual information and misunderstanding.
  • Satisfying homosexual experiences in early life may influence homosexual attraction later in life.
  • Confusion in child’s sexual identification by being treated as though of the opposite sex.
  • A child who cannot find affection in the home may find it in persons seeking homosexual outlet.
  • Lack of effective role models (e.g., male as “Macho”; female as “Maria Clara”).

Lessons and Challenges

1. Always distinguish a HOMOSEXUAL PERSON from a HOMOSEXUAL ACTIVITY

2.NO ONE is a homosexual person by choice

3. Genital activity such as sodomy, oral sex, mutual masturbation, or pedophilia are NOT exclusively homosexual activities; they can also be heterosexual acts

4.Homosexual personality or homosexual attraction does NOT make one a sex pervert or an immoral person

5.Persons with homosexual orientation, attraction or preference can still live very chaste, moral, edifying and productive lives

6. Conquer “homophobia”
  • Expose, challenge, and reject the distorted, misguided, and un fair designations, stereotypes and attitudes we have on homosexual persons.
  • Help homosexual persons liberate themselves from the negative stereotyping they have absorbed and accepted from society
  • Avoid moral judgments on homosexual persons simply because of their sexual orientation
7. Conquer ignorance & isolation
Heterosexual people who know gays and lesbians personally as friends or as relatives are MORE ACCEPTING of homosexuals than those who do not know or have homosexuals as friends

SABAKAN Sexuality Program

The Advocacy Director of Pure Love Network attended a Seminar-Workshop on Sabakan Sexuality Program at Carmelite Retreat House, Malaubang, Ozamis City on April 5 to 25, 2010.

Sabakan – Ministry to Women and Children’s Concern is a church-based, non-government organization of the Diocese of Pagadian.

It has become a center for the healing of abused women and children and give free legal assistance to indigent clients.

It also becomes a training and resource center for the advocacy, promotion and protection of the human rights of women and children using creative methodology.

Sabakan Sexuality Program (SSP) is three-week training for social workers, teachers, community leaders, and anyone working on women and children. SSP was started on the year 1998 and conducted every year.

The seminar-workshop tackles the following:

I. SEXUALITY & SPIRITUALITY

Sexuality and spirituality play a major role in the force that gives life. When God created man and woman to his image and likeness, sexuality and spirituality is the twin gift given to each and everyone. These are the two aspects of our lives that cannot be separated, these comprises the wholeness of human being.

II. GENDER SENSIVITY TRAINING (GST)

What is GST?

GST is a skill knowing the truth that women and men were all victims in this crisis situation.

It is not a competition of men and women.

It’s not against men rather to be aware of the causes why there is violence against women.

III. PATRIARCHY


Within feminist theory, patriarchy refers to the structure of modern cultural and political systems, which are ruled by men. Such system are said to be detrimental to the rights of women. However, it has been noted that patriarchal systems of government do not benefit all men.

IV. HOMOSEXUALITY

What is true homosexuality?

A persistent and post-adolescent state of being in which the object of sexual attraction is a person of the same sex, and there is a simultaneous abhorrence or aversion from sexual relations with the opposite sex

V. VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN

Any act/acts committed by any person against:  a woman who may be the wife/former wife, or with whom the abuser has or had a sexual/dating relationship, or with whom the abuser has a common child; or the woman’s child, whether legitimate or illegitimate.

The acts are committed within or outside the family residence

The acts result in physical, sexual, psychological harm or suffering, economic abuse, threat of such acts, battery, assault, coercion, harassment or deprivation of liberty.

VI. VIOLENCE AGAINST CHILDREN

What is child abuse?

Although there are many formal and acceptable definitions of child abuse, the following is offered as a guide for information on child abuse and neglect.


Child abuse consists of any act of commission or omission that endangers or impairs a child's physical or emotional health and development. Child abuse includes any damage done to a

child which cannot be reasonably explained and which is often  represented by an injury or series of injuries appearing to be non-accidental in nature.


VII. SELF-AWARENESS

VIII. NON-VIOLENCE COMMUNICATION


Non-Violence Communication is a powerful process for compassionate connection and action.

Provides a framework and set of skills to address human problems, from the most intimate relationships to global conflicts.

IX. ACTIVE PARENTING

Active parenting is more of a proactive approach. You don't wait for a child to do something wrong but try to instill values and morals that will be the foundation for their character as they grow up. That is the basis and purpose of active parenting.

X. PREVENTION EDUCATION AGAINST CHILD ABUSE

XI. REPUBLIC ACT 9262


AN ACT DEFINING VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN AND THEIR CHILDREN, PROVIDING FOR PROTECTIVE MEASURES FOR VICTIMS, PRESCRIBING PENALTIES THEREFORE, AND FOR OTHER PURPOSES

XII. HIV & AIDS

HIV:  Human Immunodeficiency Virus (Retrovirus, Luc Montagnier, Paris 1983)

AIDS: Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome - comes about as a result of damage to the immune system

XIII. MENTAL HEALTH

XIV. CREATIVE HEALING METHODOLOGY


The training indeed widens and equipped Pure Love Network in advocating the protection of children and youth.

An Easter Message for the Youth

(Easter Message of Bishop Joel Baylon)

A blessed and happy Easter to you, dearly beloved young people!

Once again, after days of Lenten discipline and mortifying sacrifices, after listening to and meditating on the mystery of Christ’s Suffering, Death and Resurrection, we arrive at the culmination of the greatest feast of the Church—Easter. With minds enlightened and hearts burning like the two disciples at Emmaus, we feel called to journey with the Lord in the jubilation of Easter in order to witness to His Risen Life before our fellow human beings!

“Humanity today expects from Christians a renewed witness to the resurrection of Christ; it needs to encounter him and to know him as true God and true man… [It needs to] rediscover with renewed conviction, faith in Christ dead and risen for us…” says Pope Benedict XVI in his Easter Message.

In our Philippine context, we can read this as a call to involve yourselves—as young people—in the current events that shape our country, as we continue to journey (albeit meanderingly and with a lot of uncertainty) towards progress, peace and unity. The coming national elections for one, ask for your all-out and active participation. Whether you will cast your ballots or not, you must generously give your time, talents and communal efforts to safeguard the electoral process. With dedication do you share in making possible that the precinct count optical scans work as expected, that voters get to their respective polling places, that the votes are correctly counted, and all these happen in an atmosphere of peace and civility—so that there will be a peaceful and orderly transfer of power on the 30th of June.

We can never overemphasize the truth that the young are the inheritors of tomorrow. And precisely because you are, my dear young people, you have the right and the responsibility to be active sharers in the events that will guarantee a bright and hopeful tomorrow—not only for the country which you will lead and carry someday, but also for the Church and other institutions that will compose part of your future.

In his message for this year’s World Youth Day celebration last 28 March, the Holy Father said: “The future is in the hands of those who know how to seek and find strong reasons for life and hope. If you want it, the future is in your hands, because the gifts and the riches that the Lord has closed in the heart of each of you, molded by the encounter with Christ, can bring back true hope to the world!”

It is my fervent prayer that you, my dear young people, will respond generously and joyfully to this call. Take courage! “Do not let yourself be discouraged and do not give up your dreams!...” “Do not be afraid…” the Pope went on to say in his WYD message for “(God) knows how to give profound joy to him who responds with courage…”

May our Blessed Mother, who gently and lovingly guided the young Jesus in his growing years, guide you as well and lead you to her Risen Son, who makes all life meaningful and fruitful! I remain

Sincerely yours in the Lord,

+JOEL Z. BAYLON
Bishop of Legazpi
Chairman, CBCP Episcopal Commission on Youth
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BISHOP vs CABRAL: Think of condoms during Holy Week, AIDS a week later?
GMANews.TV - Saturday, April 3

A Catholic bishop urged Health Secretary Esperanza Cabral to reflect during the Holy Week on her agency's program of distributing free condoms. But in turn, Cabral is inviting Church groups to a summit on April 12 that will discuss the same issue.

"DOH Secretary Esperanza Cabral, dapat magnilay ngayong panahon ng Kwaresma ... Ang pamamahagi ng condom sa mga tao ay malinaw na pagsira sa diwa at spirit ng kwaresma dahil pino-promote nito ang imoralidad sa lipunan," Sorsogon Bishop Arturo Bastes said in an interview on Church-run Radio Veritas.

(DOH Secretary Esperanza Cabral, reflect during Lent. Distributing condoms clearly destroys the spirit of Lent because it promotes immorality.)

Bastes said that during Lent, Christians are asked to renew their lives “by more intense prayer, acts of penance by mortifications, give alms thru charitable acts and meditate on the laws of God." Meanwhile, he said, “Cabral here is promoting immorality and physical sickness instead of health in soul and body."

Excerpts of the interview were posted on the Catholic Bishops' Conference of the Philippines news site.

DOH invites Church groups

Despite the continuing barrage of criticism from bishops, the DOH has invited Church groups to attend the 2010 HIV Summit on April 12, a week after Holy Week. Several faith-based groups have already expressed their intent to participate, according to an article posted on the DOH website.

“The government cannot do this task alone of reducing and preventing infections. I am glad that faith-based organizations now have opened their doors to this calling of caring and providing support to those infected and affected," Cabral said.

Catholic bishops had ganged up on Cabral since February 14 when DOH workers distributed free condoms to those who bought flowers in the Dangwa market.

According to Cabral, the condom distribution was part of the department's program to curb the spread of sexually-transmitted diseases.

After Cabral accepted a challenge by bishops to debate on the issue of condoms, Church-backed groups continued to hold anti-condom protest activities.

Increase in HIV infections

Cabral said the 2010 HIV Summit aims to inform national leaders of the current state of HIV/AIDS in the country and the need for urgent action towards meeting the Millennium Development Goal 6, particularly on HIV.

She noted the number of infected individuals increased from one infection every three days in 2000, to one per day in 2007, and two infections per day in 2009.

Because of this, she said the country cannot afford to lose a day in stopping the spread of the dreaded disease.

Presently, Global Fund pays for the cost of medicines of people living with HIV/AIDS and these medicines are free only until 2012.—JV, GMANews.TV

TRUE LOVE WAITS

Contributed by Jhing Yusalan, Mindanao State University
(It is a very inspiring passage if we truly find the perfect love. Hope everybody could internalize and realize what really matters in LOVE... Just enjoy reading)

Everyone longs to give himself or herself to someone; to have deep full relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively. But God say's "NO", until you are not satisfied, fulfilled, and contented with being loved by Me alone. I LOVE YOU my child. Until you will discover that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be united with another until you are united with Me; exclusive of others desires and longings. I want you to STOP- planning and wishing. Allow Me to bring the person to you. you just keep WATCHING,EXPECTING the greatest things, keep LISTENING and LEARNING the things, I tell you. You just WAIT- that's all.

Don't be anxious, don't worry and don't look around at the things others have or what I've given them. You just keep looking up to Me for you will miss what I have to show to you. When you are ready, I'll surprise you with a love more wonderful that you would ever have dreamed of. You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready. I am working even this minute to have you both ready to Me at the same time. Until you are satisfied EXCLUSIVELY with Me and the life I have prepared for you, you will not be able to experience the love that exemplified your relationship with Me. This is the PERFECT LOVE, I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of BEAUTY, PERFECTION and LOVE that I offer you MYSELF.

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BOY-GIRL RELATIONSHIP EXPLAINED AT FUHSAI
by Thracy Asube, PLN News Writer

The Pure Love Network are here again in Father Urios High School of Ampayon, Inc. (FUHSAI). The main topic is about "Boy-Girl Relationship."

The forum was opened by a song entitled "Heaven." Then we reviewed the last topic which is all about the recent social issues that generally affects the young. Although some students were not participating the facilitator were able to discuss how serious the issues are.

Upon sharing the topic regarding the boy-girl relationship the students were very attentive and interested. Kuya Bonie shared his experiences of having a girl friend and his learning. Everyone was touched about the story, was inspired and enjoyed. Most of us are  hoping that Pure Love Network will be back here in FUHSAI.

I am inviting those who haven't attended yet the Love Forum to attend for the next sessions. This network change our lives. We are blessed to have them here.

Feedback of students about the forum with the topic boy-girl relationship:

  • Diego, "Thank you for sharing your experiences, I learned many thing from it."
  • Jocelyn, "I will apply the principles to have a good relationship."
  • Grace, "No more fears...I already have the tips to have a successful relationship. Thank God, now I'm enlightened."
  • Bemz, "I learned that having a relationship is not just 'EASY' we have to set limitations."
  • Arlene, "Relationship is trust."
  • Jessalie, "Thank you for making me realized such things about relationships."
  • Rolly, "I was inspired by them."
  • Majo, "It's my lost if I was not able to attend today's forum. I am very thankful for the topic we have tackled, it's a big realization."
  • Thracy, "You have changed me."
  • Lindy Lou, "It is an inspiration to all of us."
  • Sharmaine Mae, "This forum had enlightened my mind."
  • Charie May, "I learned the elements and principles of having a relationship, from now I know how to discipline myself."
  • Precious Mae, "It helps me realize what really love is."
  • Hazel, "This forum gets me closer to God."
  • Mark, "This forum is very great for students, it gave us facts that could really inspires us."
  • Em2x, "After knowing the principles, I know my next relationship would much better than the past."
  • Dave, "This network will help the youth to take the right path."
  • Anselmo, "I learned what true love is...how love influenced your life."
  • Leah Mae, " I learned some values from this forum."
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Boy-Girl Relationship explained at FUHSAI

by Thracy Asube, PLN News Writer

The Pure Love Network are here again in Father Urios High School of Ampayon, Inc. (FUHSAI). The main topic is about "Boy-Girl Relationship."

The forum was opened by a song entitled "Heaven." Then we reviewed the last topic which is all about the recent social issues that generally affects the young. Although some students were not participating the facilitator were able to discuss how serious the issues are.

Upon sharing the topic regarding the boy-girl relationship the students were very attentive and interested. Kuya Bonie shared his experiences of having a girl friend and his learning. Everyone was touched about the story, was inspired and enjoyed. Most of us are  hoping that Pure Love Network will be back here in FUHSAI.

I am inviting those who haven't attended yet the Love Forum to attend for the next sessions. This network change our lives. We are blessed to have them here.

Feedback of students about the forum with the topic boy-girl relationship:

  • Diego, "Thank you for sharing your experiences, I learned many thing from it."
  • Jocelyn, "I will apply the principles to have a good relationship."
  • Grace, "No more fears...I already have the tips to have a successful relationship. Thank God, now I'm enlightened."
  • Bemz, "I learned that having a relationship is not just 'EASY' we have to set limitations."
  • Arlene, "Relationship is trust."
  • Jessalie, "Thank you for making me realized such things about relationships."
  • Rolly, "I was inspired by them."
  • Majo, "It's my lost if I was not able to attend today's forum. I am very thankful for the topic we have tackled, it's a big realization."
  • Thracy, "You have changed me."
  • Lindy Lou, "It is an inspiration to all of us."
  • Sharmaine Mae, "This forum had enlightened my mind."
  • Charie May, "I learned the elements and principles of having a relationship, from now I know how to discipline myself."
  • Precious Mae, "It helps me realize what really love is."
  • Hazel, "This forum gets me closer to God."
  • Mark, "This forum is very great for students, it gave us facts that could really inspires us."
  • Em2x, "After knowing the principles, I know my next relationship would much better than the past."
  • Dave, "This network will help the youth to take the right path."
  • Anselmo, "I learned what true love is...how love influenced your life."
  • Leah Mae, " I learned some values from this forum."
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    BOY-GIRL RELATIONSHIP: LNHS 2nd LOVE FORUM

    by Joanne Adormeo, PLN News Writer

    The second Love Forum was held on 6th of February 2009 at Libertad National High  School. Despite that it was only 19 students attended the forum, which was only thirty percent attendance compared to the first Love Forum, the forum went on and ended successfully and romantically.

    The love forum was started with a prayer in a way of a worship song entitled "Heaven." Kuya Bonie then let the participant analyzed what's the message of the song. Referring to the first two lines of the song, "You died on the cross, my life you saved at all cost." Some students answered that God saved us because of His great love for us. Kuya Bonie said that the song's central message was that God wants to share heaven with us.

    After the short discussions about the opening song, Kuya Bonie introduced himself and his companion, Ate Markeen. He reviewed the topic of the previous love forum for the benefits of the participants who failed to attend the last forum. The review included HIV-AIDS cases, youth having pre-marital sex that leads to life-threatening results such as abortions.

    The highlight of discussion for this love forum is "Boy-Girl Relationship." Kuya Bonie said, being involved in a boy-girl relationship is an act of loving. Then the room was filled with romantic atmosphere as Kuya Bonie shared with the group his experienced about the topic. Kuya Bonie's experiences were so touching, he does not just talk, he also sing their theme songs to the point that somebody cried. While sharing his experiences he also shared his learning that loving other is a decision, to be faithful, selflessness, fulfilling promises, experiencing happiness and an act of witnessing. He emphasized that a relationship must be with God's grace.

    The atmosphere became more romantic as Kuya Bonie called Ate Markeen to sing their theme-song "Forever You'll Stay" with him. That was when the group realized that Ate Markeen is Kuya's current girlfriend and hopefully his future wife. Oh! How really romantic! Kuya said, to let your relationship an act of witnessing so that others may have hope and be guided is another level of relationship.

    Here are some best tips for boys and girls who want to have a successful relationship. If you will follow it, it's an assurance that you'll have a great relationship.

    4 Principles before engaging in a boy-girl relationship:

    Principle # 1. LOVE GOD FIRST.
    Principle # 2. LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF.
    Principle # 3. YOUR PARENTS DESERVE YOUR LOVE.
    Principle # 4. KNOW YOUR DREAMS FIRST.

    As the atmosphere was back in its "normal temperature," a thrifty coin box was passed to each participants to give any amount as a way of showing their support for the Pure Love Network advocacy.

    A heartfelt prayer ended the activity.

    Pure Love Network Goes to Father Urios High School of Ampayon, Inc.

    by Yzay Mangubat, PLN News Writer

    Pure Love Network (PLN) Facilitating Team went to Father Urios High School of Ampayon, Inc. (FUHSAI) at Ampayon, Butuan City to hold the first love forum in their campus last January 30, 2010.

    There were 43 Urians participated in the event. It was started with an opening prayer and a song of praise entitled "One Way, Jesus."

    PLN facilitator began the discussion with a question, "Is it right for a 15 or 16 year old to engage in a boy-girl relationship?"

    Most of the students agreed with the statement, only a few against it. The participants contributed their ideas and opinions openly during the discussions. After the debate several activities happened followed by the understanding of life stress and a crisis situation and orientation regarding sexuality.

    The following was what Urians said about the Love Forum?

    • Louis Earl, "I was amazed and learn a lot from the discussions."
    • Dave, "Thank you, this program open my eyes to truly understand the perspective of the young regarding sexuality."
    • Hazel, "I'm very thankful that you came here in our school especially now that our school is facing problems about students getting pregnant. Keep inspiring the youth. We learned a lot."
    • Clint, "I have learned new information. I have fun and enjoy the activity."
    • Grace, "I learned a lot more. My learning today gives me a greater vision and this forum bounds me to God. A connection that is a must for every person. I am now aware of the message of impurity. Now, I can well decide what should I do and prefer."
    • Ivis Kent, "It's fun and I enjoy the activity."
    • Jelly, "I learned how really important to preserve my chastity. I really enjoy and I"m proud that I joined."
    • Ellen Joy, "I learn a lot. I enjoy it. The facilitators are nice."
    • Alberta, "I enjoy listening the discussion on chastity."
    • Alven, "I pledged that I will love God above all things. This forum was such an inspiration to me. I will treasure this."
    • Khirstene, "Pure Love Network is the best."
    • Diego, "I love the forum."
    • Kaia Grace, "The forum is nice, I have shared my feelings. One of the nice experienced I have encountered."
    • Noel, "Now I realized the value of chastity."
    • Aubrey, "Unexpected, I never thought that I'll enjoy... I have attended so many forum and it just bored me. It is my first time to attend a forum like this."
    • Bem2x, "At first I don't want to attend. When the discussion started the feeling of boring was gone, the topics are for mature but I can relate through the activities and explanations. I hope there will be more..."
    • Mia Camille, "I am indeed grateful that I have attended this activity. This network made me to decide to preserve my chastity, stronger than before."
    • Ken, "This love forum is helping us to realize the situation in the community."
    • Jeremiah, "Thank you for coming in our school."
    • Tristan, "I learned moral lesson, this can change my personality."
    • Maria Jessa, "Naging masaya ang araw ko ngayon kasi hindi ko masyadong gusto ang mga forum-forum, pero nasabi ko sa sarili ko na maganda at masaya pala ang mag-attend ng katulad nito."
    • Ma. Thracy, "I want to join this kind of network."  
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    LIBERTAD NATIONAL HIGH SCHOOL 1st LOVE FORUM

    by Markeen A. Tero, PLN News Writer

    January 23, 2010 was the first Love Forum held at Libertad National High School, Libertad, Butuan City. Fifty three students attended the event, we would love to acknowledge and thank Mr. Coro, the Principal, Mrs. Flores, the Guidance Councilor, and the Faculty of the school for their support.

    The activity was started with a song practice lead by 4th year student Janelyn Contreras, assisted by April Rose Ramirez, after then an opening prayer was made.  Kuya Bonie introduced the facilitating team (volunteers from San Vicente National High School) of the activity and then made a roll call of the participants. The activity was followed by a leveling of expectations. Most of the participants expect that the activity is all about relationships.

    The first workshop was a group debate. The proposition was "IS IT OKEY FOR A 15 OR 16 YEAR OLD TO ENGAGE IN A BOY-GIRL RELATIONSHIP?" Eighty percent of the participants did not agree with the statement. The debate was lively and very energetic.
    Here are the points of the debate:
    Affirmative

    • It is okey to have a boy-girl relationship provided it is permitted by the parents. As a teenager we should enjoy life.
    • It is okey as long as you handle the relationship correctly by making a balance of your priorities.
    • it is okey, it is just a matter of good handling of your self.
    Negative
    • It's not okey, in the stage of our life now we should focus in our studies.
    • Our priority should be God, self, family, ministry, and study.  
    • Boy-Girl relationship has its own time, at the proper age maybe 18 year old or above.
    • A teenager should set his or her future first, such as discovering his/herself, dreams in life, and priorities before engaging in boy-girl relationship.
    The debate was ended with a loud applause. Everyone was satisfied being able to expressed themselves. Kuya Bonie explained that there is always diversity on how we understand things, including boy-girl relationship. Factors are our up-bringing, the culture, the thinking of our parents, the society we belong, and etc. what matters most is that we take responsible with our decisions and actions, and we must always think that there is always a limitations in every actions, and we must not cross that limitations or else youll encounter unnecessary problems.

    An awareness test was followed, it is called STRESS or CRISIS TEST. Ten items of scenarios/situations was presented and the participants will choose whether it is a crisis or stress, the group incurred seven correct answers. The definition of crisis and stress was discussed after which another group work was held. The participants was divided into six groups and given the task to choose two crisis situations presented previously and then created what will be the possible scenarios from their chosen crisis situation.

    The following crisis situations were presented by the groups:
    • teenage pregnancy
    • divorce/separation of parents
    • unexpected death of a parent
    • being fired from work
    They explained that this crisis would cause lose of hope, disintegration of families, damaged reputations, inclination to vices, poverty, sickness, dropping out in school, and miserable future.

    There awareness was broaden through the presentation of results from various studies made such as:
    1. The 1994 Young Adult Fertility and Sexuality Survey (YAFSS) of 11,000 young people, ages 15 to 24 years, conducted by Dr. Z. C. Zablan, professor of demography at the Population Institute of the University of the Philippines, revealed that 18 percent of Filipino youths approved premarital sex, 80 percent disapproved, and 2 percent were neutral.
    2. The same YAFSS survey showed that a large number of female college graduates residing in urban areas (35 percent) were exercising their liberal roles, both in their personal and professional lives with flexible sexual attitudes, while 40 percent were more likely to employ contraception.
    3. Data from the National Statistics Office showed that of 1.7 million babies born in 2004, almost 8 percent were born to mothers aged 15-19. Almost 30 percent of Filipino women become mothers before reaching their 21st birthday. In 2000 alone, young mothers gave birth to 818,000 babies, this means that almost 1 of every 10 babies is born to a teenage mother.
    4. Kiko dela Tonga, of Likhaan Foundation, cited a recent study done by the Population Institute of the University of the Philippines showing that more than four million Filipinos aged 15-19 have had sexual intercourse. He said two of every five teenage pregnancies are unwanted ones; more than 46 percent of young pregnant women resort to induced abortion.
    5. In Metro Manila study made by Josefina Cabigon of the University of the Philippines Population Institute, 17 percent of the 1,169 women surveyed admitted having had an abortion.
    6. Every year, as many as 750,000 women undergo induced abortion in illegal "clinics" all  over the Philippines.  Many of these women eventually die from infection, hemorrhage and other complications. Statistics compiled by the Department of Health Hospital Development Plan for 1988 to 1992 reveal that in 1986 alone abortion was third in the top 10causes of hospitalization. A large percentage of this is believed to be induced abortion.
    7. A Review of the Youth Situation and National Policies and Programmes: UNITED NATIONS, New York, 2000.  Of the 660 individuals in the Philippines who reportedly tested positive for HIV, a total of 72, or 33 per cent, were within the age bracket of 15 to 24 years. 
    8. Youth are particularly vulnerable to Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs), with 24.4 percent of female youth and 24.3 percent of male youth surveyed in 1994 found to have at least one serious reproductive health problem. Given the proportion of youth who are sexually active, they are particularly vulnerable to STDs and other reproductive health problems. Gonorrhea is the most prevalent type of STD to affect the general population.
    The participants in the room were quiet. Kuya Bonie asked, "Do you think you can do something about it?" A loud "YES" was an answer. The orientation of Pure Love Network advocacy "NO SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE" is the concrete action they can do to make a difference. 82 percent of the participants pledge to preserved their chastity until they got married.

    After filling up the pledgers form, six students committed to become volunteers of Pure Love Network, they are willing to give some of their time to be actively involved in promoting the advocacy. They are, Joanne Adormeo, Sarah Jean Bongabong, Annabelle Taragua, Danilyn Consigna, Junnabel Loren, and Karen Malig-on.

    What the participants said about the love forum:
    • Jun Paul, "It will be a great help to the young!"
    • Arjel, "I enjoyed the discussions and learned a lot."
    • Jonelyn,"I like the activity, important details were clearly presented. I've learned so many things."
    • Edgardo,Jr., "I've learned to appreciate to preserve my chastity until marriage."
    • Gladys Joy, "It is nice and interesting, I like the topics."
    • Myra Jane, "It's fun. It allows us to express ourselves to others."
    • Pauline Grace, "I really appreciated the efforts of the people behind this advocacy. They visualizes how chastity and pureness is so important, especially to the teenagers."
    • Josie Marie, "I've learned how to protect my dignity."
    • Alberto, Jr., "I have now the vehicle to promote the virtue of chastity."
    • Danilyn, "Ladies must protect themselves from lust and be modess at all time."
    • Jesse Mae, "I now understand relationships, to God, friends and others. I somehow understand now the word Love."
    • Annabelle, "Nice activity for the young to prevent teenage pregnancies."
    • Ma. Janeth, "I enjoy the activity and I like the snacks."
    • Erwin, "I am clarified on how to respect the person's dignity and integrity."
    • Honey Joy, "I really enjoy the activity, I am very thankful to the facilitators. I hope next love forum more students will attend."
    The event was ended with a solemn praise and prayer.
    Photos of the activity.

    HOMOSEXUALITY: SIMPLY EXPLAINED



    by Yzay Mangubat, PLN News Writer

    Pure Love Network explained about homosexuality during the Love Forum with the San Vicente National High School students last January 16, 2010.The event started at 2:00 o'clock in the afternoon facilitated by Kuya Bonie assisted by the BOP (Bearers of Purity) members. BOP are the volunteers of PLN.

    There were about 25 students attending and actively participating in the event. The event was started with a prayer and then, the participants were divided into four dynamic groups.  Each group discussed with the guide question, "WHEN YOU SEE A HOMOSEXUAL, WHAT COMES FIRST IN YOUR MIND?". After the set time the group reported their discussion to the plenary. As they present their works they  had one view in common and it was about accepting those homosexuals because it was not their fault why they are like that and they cannot blame them.

    The group of the homosexual students also expressed their feelings during the forum. They said, even though they are different, they have also a fragile heart and they know how to love and respect one another. They believe God has purpose for their lives.

    After the whole group discussions, Kuya Bonie presented a video clip called "Baby Steps", showing a child inside the mother's womb from 8 Weeks until the baby was delivered to the outside world. Kuya Bonie explicitly explained why there are homosexuals and gave these points to the participants.
    • for the homosexuals, being a homosexual is a gift, God permitted that you were born to be like that for a special purpose. Discovering that purpose will make your life wonderful, productive, and will make you whole. Do not become homosexual perverts, it will just ruin your life and your soul.
    • for the whole participants, we have to respect a person whoever or whatever he or she may be. Everyone is a creation of God and deserve our full respect and admiration. Homosexuals are persons, God is also with them, let us see them on how God sees them.

    The love forum was successfully ended at exactly 4:00 o'clock in the afternoon with a solemn prayer.

    You

    by Shio Ann Chris B. Branzuela of SVNHS

    A day came when you courted me
    Despite of weaknesses, you pursue to love me
    I doubt for your sincerity
    But you've proven that someone will love me
    Although I'm just simply me

    I accepted your love with fear inside
    The reason is I'm afraid to be hurt again
    But you help me to be gallant enough
    To overcome what ever hurting I'll encounter in love

    Now I realized that I'm in love
    To you the person I doubted once
    You're my inspiration to face all the challenges in my life
    You consoles me when I'm down
    And you gave meaning to my life

    Everyday I'm excited to see you
    'Coz what am I longing to be with is you
    The person that treated me like a Baby Princess
    And I'm so grateful for what you do
    You've change everything in me
    From a negative thinker to a positive minded I could be

    This time I'm afraid to loss you
    "Coz it's difficult to search someone like you
    Having you is a big gift from God
    Because you're not like just an ordinary breed
    But the every woman dreamed to be with

    In our life we don't know if when will be apart
    But theres just only three things I want to do
    Before each of us go to our different paths...

    ...To hold your hands
    ...To stare at your eyes and
    ...To see you smile

    Coz if I could be to follow
    I'll choose you to be with forever... I hope so.

    "SAFE SEX" Can Kill You

    It only take once to:
    • get pregnant
    • get venereal disease
    • die from AIDS
    Your Teen Years

    Your teen years should be a very special time for you; a time to study and learn; to think about what you would like to do in the future; to develop friendships; and to grow into the kind of person you want to be as an adult. This time has been set aside for you by nature, to be the prime time for your identity formation.

    This is an exciting time for you to discover the opposite sex, but without having to deal with the complications of being involved in sexual activity.

    Dating can be a lot of fun without sex! Getting into the sexual scene can short-circuit the growth you need to become a mature adult!

    What about the pill?

    The pill is especially dangerous for you if you are a teenager under 17. It contains a powerful hormone that affects the master gland in your body. That master gland is trying to coordinate your growth process. The pill can prevent your bones from hardening properly; it can make you sterile, preventing pregnancies later in life when you may want to have a baby; it can cause phlebitis (inflammation of your veins, which can cause blood clots).

    Aren't condoms safe?

    Absolutely not! Using rubbers (condoms) to prevent AIDS is likely playing Russian Roulette - your life is at stake!

    20% of condom lots tested by the FDA (US Food and Drug Administration) in 1987, were found to have higher than allowed numbers of defective condoms. Condoms also fail 3 to 36% of the time in preventing pregnancy, according to the Center for Disease Control.

    That Special Gift

    Having sex before marriage is sort of like giving out all your Christmas gifts in July. It may be fun at the time. But when that big day comes around, the presents have all been given out! The fun of giving that special gift to that special person at that very special time, is gone.

    Wait until you finish your education and can make a life-long commitment in marriage with a partner you know to be disease-free, before you give your special gift of sex.

    It isn't easy!

    When people say "it's not realistic to tell teenagers not to have sex," what they're really saying is that you do not have the strength, the courage, or the common sense to practice self-control; that you are not capable of saying "No" to sex!

    Nobody is trying to tell you that restraining from sex is easy. Nothing worthwhile in life comes easy. But it's a lot better than putting yourself through the grief of an unwanted pregnancy and having to make the decision that go with it, or putting yourself at risk of contracting an embarrassing or life-threatening disease.

    Don't be afraid you'll lose him/her if you say "no" to sex. If your friend wants you only for your physical self, they're not worth keeping as friends anyway!

    Don't fall for the misleading slogan, "safe sex." There is no such thing for you.

    Don't allow yourself to be pressured into sexual activity.

    Why take chances?

    In 1987, the Atlanta Center for Disease Control reported over 10 million new cases of Sexually Transmitted Diseases with another 10 million suspected. How many of these couples do you suppose felt they were practicing "safe sex"?

    Remember, some Sexually Transmitted Diseases are incurable, some cause you to be sterile, some are thought to cause cancer of the cervix, some kill, and others are just plain painful and irritating.

    Don't take a risk that you don't have to take. Find someone who respects you for your total being - someone you enjoy being with without feeling pressured into sex; someone with whom you can keep your self-esteem.

    Don't take unnecessary chances with your health. Play it really safe - Say "NO" to drugs! Say "NO" to alcohol! Say "NO" to sex!

    It's your health; it's your body. Protect it with your life!

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     I'm Glad I've Waited ( A real life story)
    Submitted by Markeen Tero from PNU

    When I graduated from high school, one of my relatives gave me a subscription to Campus Life. Your column and one particular story have had a profound effect upon my life. The story was about a young man and a locket. Every time he got into a serious relationship, he gave the girl a beautiful new locket. On his wedding night he gave his bride a locket, but by that time he had given away so many, the locket didn't seem very special anymore. You opened my eyes to the importance of virginity. As I've become an adult, I've seen the unhappiness that premarital sex has caused in a number of my friends.

    After a couple of dates with a guy, I would tell him the "locket story," and inform him that I was a virgin and planned to be one until I married. Of course, there were some guys I never heard from again, but that didn't always happen. I discovered there are guys who value virginity. I have dated two guys who were virgins themselves. One is now a very dear friend. He introduced me to my fiance Jeff.

    When Jeff and I get married, we will both be virgins. This has been so important because during the years we've dated, we've developed a strong relationship built on a deep friendship. From what I have seen, sex can sometimes get in the way and cause people to stay together who perhaps should be apart. I have no doubt about Jeff and me, because sex is not "fogging" our minds.